Five reasons to go for sex therapy

Published in Blog by Bridget Wilkins and Andrew Davidson on October 3rd 2023

Sexual problems are often a manifestation of something going on in our relationship with our body, mind and partner. When sex goes off, our body and mind try to tell us something about the space between ourselves and our partner.

A sex therapist can help determine what might be happening between your body, mind, partner, and relationship.

So why should you think about visiting a psychosexual therapist?

1. Problems with sexual function

Individuals or couples seek sex therapy when they encounter a problem with their sexual functioning. This can range from unreliable erections to painful sex. A sex therapist will help you understand and manage your concerns and get your sex life back on track.

2. Worries about how much sex you’re having (too much, too little, too quick, too long…)

Issues around sex can be more complex and are linked to a more profound disparity between you and your sexual partner. These differences can be challenging to communicate because discussing sex can make us feel vulnerable. A sex therapist can help keep the communication space safe and positive while you explore your concerns together.

3. When life is getting in the way

Sex, sexuality and sexual desire change across our lifespan, just as our bodies and minds do. We need to be flexible and open to change. Often, we can get stuck in a routine. A sex therapist can offer advice and support to help you navigate the significant changes in life without losing the warmth and containment of genuine intimacy.

4. If you or your partner don’t feel like having sex anymore

When our sex drive wanes or becomes problematic, we often stop touching each other altogether. We all need touch to survive. Regular touching – even a simple hug - releases positive chemicals in our bodies that reassure us and soothe us. A sex therapist will expand your understanding of your sexual landscape, as there is far more to sex than penetration.

5. It’s not spontaneous anymore

We are often raised with the belief that sex should “just happen” and “be spontaneous”. But this is a myth. We must nurture our sexual selves as we would other aspects of our bodies and minds. Sometimes, we need to make a conscious effort to improve things, seek expert advice and learn about ourselves. A sex therapist can help reduce your fear of talking about sex; then you can communicate your sexual desires to one another, which is often the sexiest thing of all.

Discussing intimacy issues wth a therapist

If you would like to speak to a therapist about intimacy issues you can find out about the wide variety of therapies provided by Tavistock Relationships or call 020 7380 1975 for further information.